[How to cultivate the courage to live life with no regrets]

“There is a price to pay for speaking the truth.
There is a bigger price for living a lie.”

-Cornel West


I share this often and it bares repeating often so we will remember it:
The #1 regret of the dying is they didn’t have the courage to live a life true to themselves. They lived the life other’s wanted them to live.
Basically, the #1 regret you will have at the end of your life is not living an authentic life.
It is very simple, but it’s not easy (at first).
This is why it’s hard at first:
You have parts of your brain that are wired to seduce you away from walking your true path aligned with your life’s purpose.
These “not True Self” parts of your brain are designed to keep you and your True Self disguised.
And the really challenging part is that these parts of your brain disguise themselves because they don’t want to be seen.
These parts of your brain hide out and they want you and your authenticity to hide out too.
Their message is “We just want you to be safe and we just want you to belong and be loved. We are just looking out for you.”
But what they are looking out for is your “not True Self”.
They are not looking out for your True Self.
Then add the myriad ways that mainstream society’s norms encourage you to choose the “not True Self” path in life, and it gets really challenging.
So if you want a life with no regrets right now, it is going to take guts and a lot of courage for your True Self to take the reigns back from these “not True Self” parts of your mind and from mainstream society’s messages about who you should be.
The #1 way to do this is by speaking what is true for you.
Speaking your truth is the most powerful way to re-program the “not True Self” so that you can live your authentic life.

The 3 Steps:

  • Authentic Alignment: Every day tune into what is true for you. Authentically align with your true path. Your true purpose. Your true fulfillment. Your true values. Your true message. Your true vision.
  • Vibration Transformation: Speak your truth, your purpose, values, message and vision out loud with authority, certainty and power, so you and your True Self reclaim it. Speak it out loud so that your “not True Self” knows that your True Self is now steering your body, mind, heart, soul and spirit on your true path of purpose and fulfillment.
  • Conscious Creation: Choose one area of your life with one person, place, thing or situation where you want to start speaking up for your True Self. Write this down: I now choose and claim for myself and am 100% certain that I am showing up as my True Self and am speaking the truth with _________. So be it. So it is. It is done. Abracadabra. And then speak it out loud. And then of course, actually do it.

Closing Thoughts:

In Cornel West’s poignant insight, “There is a price to pay for speaking the truth. There is a bigger price for living a lie”, he highlights the contrast between the costs of speaking the truth versus living a lie.
This resonates with the universal theme of authenticity and regret, encapsulated in the top regret of the dying: not living a life true to oneself. Overcoming the internal and societal pressures that steer us away from our authentic path demands courage and resilience. Our brains are wired to perpetuate the facade of conformity, masking our true selves under the guise of safety and acceptance. Yet, the key to reclaiming our authenticity lies in speaking our truth, challenging the narratives that divert us from our genuine purpose. Embracing this path requires bravery, but it offers the promise of a life lived without regret.

I love you and I support you.

The Truth Teller,

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